I think that it’s safe to say that we all have stories to tell, no matter who we are or what we do in life, our stories are a mere continuation of others stories in our collective families.
Historically speaking, when you read (or hear and see) the stories of other people, one can see themselves in their shows, it makes them relate to themselves more and by extension, other people. Look at The Sound of Music that made Julie Andrews a bonafide star she is (and her co-stars for that matter) as they acted out the real life story of the Von Trapp Family. The Diary of Anne Frank explained how horrible she and her family were treated in Germany, as did St. Faustina document the spiritual struggles in The Diary of St Faustina. Another book that was turned into a movie Freedom Writers was another example about how we can learn from other stories, as it was in the case of the students and the Holocaust survivor. They learned so much, as can we all in the grand sceme.
The reason I started this blog is to share my story, the good, the bad and the ugly, but the reason I want to share my story is becuase I feel confident in myself to share it with others, especially when people look at me as an inspiration. There was an article that was shared by the Global and Regional Asperger’s Syndrome Partnership or GRASP (GRASP.org for more info.) This article, which I saw before the New Year was eye opening for me and gave me pause: Authoring Our Own Lives: How Autistics and the World Benefit from Auti-Biography (the link for the story: http://www.thinkingautismguide.com/2017/12/authoring-our-own-lives-how-autistics.html?m=1 for full credit.)
One part of the article in particular was intruging to me and something that I’ve noticed in writing my life, how much I’ve changed in the five years since I moved from the only place I knew as a home, the author says the following:
Every piece of your life’s journey has worked together to make you the person you are today. When you write about your journey and how it has affected you, you uncover and clarify your values and priorities. It might sound illogical, but in documenting who you are, you discover who you are. Seeing things written down on paper or in pixels on a screen can help you to see that you have ideas and experiences of value to yourself and others.
If you have a journal (as I do), it’s fascinating to see where you are now from where you were before, looking at things in hindsight. The best episode that showcases this is Star Trek: Deep Space Nine’s In the Pale Moonlight, which Captain Sisko has to go over events that happenedon DS9; decisions he made in the moment and how he can accept the consequences of what he did in the context of his situation. All this he did by looking back at his story and that can ring true for us. All I can say that my poems when I started out writing are not the poems I’ve come up with, I can see how far I’ve come.
Writing can help you go through the rough patches in your life as much as it can for others to hear your story, as the writer says in the aformentioned article:
Writing your feelings and history can be cathartic and therapeutic. It can give you a safe place to address your traumas and work toward healing them. Many of us who have been through therapy have found the standard pace too invasive and emotionally overwhelming. When using autobiographical writing to uncover and work through traumas, you get to set the pace of disclosure.
Not only can writing your stories help you move from victim to survivor to thriver, but there is documented scientific evidence that writing about your life in an emotionally expressive way improves your health, from strengthening your immune system to improved outcomes in asthma and rheumatoid arthritis.
Finally, all of the above benefits: getting to know yourself better, feeling more competent and in charge of the narrative of your life, addressing and resolving traumas and other problems, reminiscing about the good times, and improving your skills can lead to an increased sense of peace and wholeness overall.
Wow!! That last piece was the one that gave me pause the most: I feel like by writing my poetry, getting the chance to write and share my story has given me a power I’ve been scared of for so long, honestly, because it gave me the chance to be the leader of the orchestra in my life’s symphony, it gives me the ability to grow and chance into a better person; a stronger person. I feel like over the five years since I’ve moved, I’ve been learning to see myself for the first time, like the pieces of my life all came together and I got to see the masterpiece instead of one part of it.
It’s been quite a feeling, to say the very least, so my hope in writing this blog, by sharing my story and my poems, I want to give people hope, shine a light to them and help me, like writing always helped me to do…