Earlier this morning, I had a conversation with a great friend of mine, I spoke at great length on things that were troubling me and the great thing is that she listened to me; heard my story and more importantly, she asked me questions about the story.
One of things we spoke about gave me reason to pause: my past and how it affected my future. It wasn’t easy for me to see how easy things seem to be in the past, but looking back was essential to me, as it afforded me the ability to see mistakes that happened that affect how I see myself now.
It’s like Back to the Future, specifically the events that it brought up, the reasons I am whom I am, the pressures I put on myself by masking and over apologizing when I don’t need to, but it also gave me the ability to put the pieces together in my life, for better or worse. It gave me the opportunity to learn what I need to do to be a better person (which I’ll touch on in a later post) which will make me more open in my life (not a hard thing for me to do, for those who know me.)
Talking, listening and learning are all key parts of what makes communication as a whole work, but that can be a difficult thing to do if you’re s Spectrumite, even small talk can be daunting, so my advice for Neurotypicals is don’t exclude us in conversations that should involve us. We want to be heard and respected in our communities. Only then can we really be welcomed and nurtured so we all can….